Life of a Married Woman

I n church today, the pastor told us a story about a couple who had two children and did not want to have more children. The husband decided that his wife get a tubal ligation ( a surgical procedure in which the woman's fallopian tubes are blocked, tied or cut ) so that they would not have any more children. The wife was against this because she was not ready to under any procedure. This became a serious issue in the marriage that almost led to the breakup of the marriage and they eventually ended up seeking  counseling  in the church. This is where the story gets interesting, the man thought that the pastor was going to take sides with him. However, the pastor took a different approach. He said to the man, "Sir, why don't you take one for the team". If the woman can do it, then you can do it too. If you don't want any more kids, why don't you undergo a vasectomy ( this is considered a permanent method of birth control where the vas deferens from each t...

I have been reading books and blogs on marriages and family life consistently for the last 2 years. One of the websites I visit often is http://www.familylife.com/. I discovered that a lot of women have had to deal with different issues in marriage and no marriage is really perfect. In marriage, love is just not enough and it takes tolerance to make a marriage really work ( my own opinion, though ). Families deal with issues such as Infidelity, Finances,  In-laws, fertility issues, self-discovery, the death of a spouse, drug abuse, lack of support from spouse, the list is endless. In marriage, I have dealt with a few of the above myself. But today, I pretty much want to address one of those issues. This post is a letter to my mother in law. I would like to think that the mother in law should be understanding since she probably had to go through some of the challenges we face today ourselves as married women. Sometimes I just think they are over protective of their sons ...

The question I have asked a couple of my friends is this: Is telling the In-laws a lot about yourself and your family a curse or a blessing?  I know what the answer is from my personal experience but I will like to hear from other wives and married women. Before I got married, I had some issues with family. I will share some of my stories as I go along. When I met my husband’s family, I felt so much love and I was so thrilled to be a part of the family. I liked their definition of what a real family should be like and this I didn’t get much of growing up. In courtship, I started to tell my In-laws a lot about my family and some of the problems I faced growing up ( Trust me I told all and didn’t leave anything out ). They listened and tried to encourage me and even promised to ensure things will get better and that they will stick with me. Again, I thought I had the best in-laws any girl could possibly dream of. I remember a friend of mine told me she used to envy my relati...

Life as a married woman has been a roller coaster ride. From dealing with family(extended family) to my husband and discovering the side of me that  I never knew existed....*sigh* It has really been a journey. Where do I begin? I got married at the age of 26 and like every other girl, it was a fairy tale wedding and a dream come true for me. I thought I had married right and that everything would be perfect. Since I want to remain anonymous on the blog, I won't want to give too much away just yet. I have had my fair share of heartache, betrayal, lies, anger and the list is endless. However, I started this blog because I want to share my story and also encourage someone out there. There is always a light at the end of the tunnel. NEVER GIVE UP. Marriage is HARD but it is still worth it.  Some ladies probably have marriage easy, others don't. My advice is whatever the case may be, always, I repeat always seek God's guidance in every step of your marriage jour...